What do you do with unanswered emails/calls

So I'm struggling with a "friend" of mine that lives in NYC and wanted to see if anyone had some insights.

Background: We dated briefly; he didn’t want to commit and just wanted a friendship. We had a great year of intense flirting, both having other relationships on the side but whenever we got together regardless of our dating status we would both be on cloud 9. At one point I thought he was my soul mate but alas that thought is slowly fading. I say slowly because I don’t want to let the feeling go but the fact that he continues to ignore my calls/emails is pushing me further away. In March, I wrote him an email asking if he had time to get coffee (during my 3 day NYC trip) and I never heard back from him.

Current situation: So every 1-2 months, I go on for days thinking about him. I don't know if that's him calling out for me or if I get bored and need something to obsess about. This happened 2 weeks ago, when I also purchased a 1-way ticket to NYC in hopes of finding a permanent job there. I naturally asked him if I could crash at his place for a bit (yes I know, not the smartest of my ideas) but also said if he can’t, I still wanted to grab coffee. Once again, I didn’t get a response and I would call him but I lost his number during one of my many many cell phone replacements. (Side note: please don’t ever let me borrow any electronic devices; we just don’t get along-LOL)

So now it’s been 2 weeks since I last emailed him, I even asked for his number and he has yet to reply. I have gone over many scenarios from:
1. He’s just not the type of friend that responds
2. He’ll just wait till I get to NYC to talk

But in the end a good friend of mine wrapped it up beautifully: He’s not worth it if he doesn’t pay you the same amount of attention! This not only goes for friendships but also for your potential lifetime partner. Please re-read that statement, it is just so simple and often overlooked but those words are powerful and can help you ease your mind/soul. Your time/thoughts/values are unique and should never be “changed” for ANYONE.

If that person can’t value you as much as you value yourself (here’s where folks with low self esteem get caught), then that person is just not worth your time. It’s hard to move on, trust me we are all victims of this, but we’ve got to believe someone out there exists that will give you the attention/love/time you deserve.

I would love to hear from my friends, let me know what you think.

My feelings for this boy: Yes I do know that I have unresolved feelings for this boy, but I was cool with just a friendship. I continued to email/call him because throughout the time we've known each other he repeatedly said, he wants me in his life (friendship). And I said of course, but it is clear to me that it's under his terms and just that. And that he is just a selfish MoFo and while some of his friends are cool with that, this HONDURICAN is not! I have high expectations of my friends and in return I give it my all. In life, u get 3 types of friends.#1. come and goes #2. stay for an occasion or 2 and #3. lifetime. As most know, #3 group is a very small group.
Alanys I truly wanted u to be in the third group but I guess you were always meant for #2.

Faith/Karma: As I wrote my "last" email to Alanys, letting him know that he got his wish and it would be my last email/call to him. (Let's keep in mind that I have no clue what I did to deserve no responses but I figured he's going through some personal stuff. ) I was aim'ing with Claire who knows faith/karma will try to intervene. See folks, this isn't the first I tried to get "rid" of Alanys but for some reason or another, he always finds his way back into my life/heart. The last time I tried to cut him out, we literally bumped into each other on a random side street in NYC (a city of millions and our paths had to cross) and Claire was there to witness (and she too was dumbfounded). But as I told Claire, enough is enough. FCUK faith/karma I am intervening here and cutting him out. I don't care anymore whether he is suppose to be in my life or not but I can't take the hurt anymore.